Welcome from Philippa and Graeme Skinner
Welcome to the 'See You Soon' website which is linked to the published book of the same name. The book and this website explore, from a personal perspective, issues around bereavement, drugs in the family and hope.
Bereavement is a devastating experience in any circumstance and there seem to be universal factors, but each bereavement is also unique, founded in the situation of the person who died and in the lives of the people left behind.
We are not experts and we are not trying to 'explain drugs' or addiction. This is a personal story written with the aim of keeping others company, as well as reminding all of us that every person who gets mixed up with drugs has their own story. Nobody is 'just a drug addict'.
Our son, Jim, died in 2007 following a heroin overdose, whilst he was working with St Stephen's Society in Hong Kong.
Breavement by addiction
After Jim died we found ourselves on a steep learning curve, as we began to understand some of the factors which make bereavement by addiction very painful for those left behind.
There are all the usual factors which are relevant to losing any person you love, and there are also specific factors which need to be considered.
As well as feelings of guilt, shame, stigma and isolation, there are often several other complicating factors.
The list could go on but further information can be found on more specialist websites.
This website and the linked book, 'See you Soon', is part of our personal response to the difficulties we found in coming to terms with such a traumatic event.
Our hopes for this website
We are not setting out to provide in depth knowledge and information as most of that can be found on many excellent sites, and we are not experts, just parents. However, we give links to other sites which will provide further links to specific support websites.
See you soon
In his last letter to us, written a few weeks before he died, Jim concluded, 'See you soon (relatively)'. These few words, written in the expectation that we would soon go to visit him in Hong Kong, where he was then living, became very poignant as we grappled with despair and tried to find hope for a meaningful future.
The story from Philippa's point of view is recorded in the book, including what she's had to learn and how she is rediscovering hope and what that means for her future.
All profit from the sale of the book will be donated to
Who are we?
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